FEELING FULLY
Emotions are here to help us learn and grow. They act as our primary tool for motivation. Without feelings there would be no desire for life, there would be no action, and there would be no beauty. Every feeling we have, whether pleasant or unpleasant, is on our side. They are constantly striving to communicate and provide support. By holding space for our emotions to flow, we can receive their messages and internal guidance. Emotions can open the doorways to new opportunities, deeper connections, and more fulfillment.
When we try to control or deny how we feel, we prevent learning and growth. We cannot control our emotions, we can only react or respond to them by the choices we make. The interplay between our feelings and our choices shapes our lives. Our success in life is dependent on our ability to work WITH our feelings. When we express our emotions in a healthy way, we channel their energy force, and use them to move us forward in life.
ACCEPTING BOTH SIDES
Life is full of polar opposites. You cannot have one side without the other. Happiness doesn’t exist in a world without sadness. The change you seek doesn’t exist in a world without challenge. When you run away from your feelings, you run away from love. This puts you in a state of disallowance, which shuts off the natural flow and energy of love. The only way to turn things around is to allow all the feelings to flow. You have to be open up to feeling the whole spectrum of emotions. Embracing this dualistic nature is essential for feeling alive.
The richness of life includes both-sides; it’s the synthesis of all polar opposites mixing together to create this extraordinary human experience.
CONTROLLING & DENYING EMOTIONS
When you try to control your emotions, your emotions control you. By denying the unpleasant emotions you shut yourself off from feeling all the good ones. The more you suppress sorrow, the more you suppress joy. If you try to control anger, it builds and stays around longer; and if you try to control happiness, it either hides from you or leaves faster. It’s almost like feelings know exactly when you are trying to control or trick them.
Now, for most of us, feelings of elations, such as joy, contentment, and happiness, are all easy to listen to and feel. Because when these come up, their message contains everything good that life has to offer. However, when we feel emotions on the opposite side, such as sadness, anger, fear, or guilt, we tend to run away or deny them. Yet these feelings are just as important and necessary as all the elated feelings.
Trying to control our emotions is an imbalanced approach, which negates the reality of both sides. The act of control is seen in one of two ways, either suppressing the bad feelings or desperately holding onto the good ones. Both of these methods interfere with the proper movement of emotions, and block the emotional message being communicated.
Suppressing Negative Emotions: Shying away, avoiding, neglecting, distracting, burying, escaping
Holding on to Positive Emotions: Unrealistic positive thinking, grasping, one-sided thinking, refusing to let go, the Pollyanna mindset
Every feeling shows up for its own reason, and needs to be experienced in its own way. It is not until we listen to that guidance that our feelings move through us properly. Instead of controlling our emotions, the goal is to allow every emotion to flow freely, and then choose a healthy means of expression. Trying to control our emotions will only lead to stagnation and emotional build up. Over time, it becomes more difficult to work through all the built up dirtiness that has been suppressed or held.
ALLOW THEM TO FLOW
Before we can choose to express our emotions we must first allow them to arise and be part of us. Here there is no control, for they simply show up all on their own. Regardless of their nature, whether pleasant or unpleasant, we must stay open and receptive. When we hold the space for our emotions to move we can listen to their messages. Think of each emotion as a dear friend who has something important to tell you. With this mindset, you will feel and listen more intently. In the same way, your emotions can be your best friends. Because in reality, they want to be with you, and for you to feel the fullness of what they carry.
When you stop fighting against your emotions and start working with them, knowing that you are on the same team, then you can generate motivation and accelerate progress.
FEELING IT ALL
I want to feel it all, every emotion, and in every way. I want to love so deeply that it shatters my mind and consumes my heart. I want to touch the world and taste the universe. I want to stand in every corner, jump off every cliff, and explore my most intimate curiosities. I want to be torn apart by the sadness and pain of loss. I want to feel the magnitude of my frustration and anger and let it flow through me. I want to feel all the guilt and shame of what I have done wrong, learn from it, and then see myself change because of it. I want to witness my fear, gaze into it’s eyes, and understand it’s meaning. I want to feel all the joy and satisfaction of achieving my dreams and living in my purpose. I want to bask in the waters of happiness of what’s to come. I want to feel so fully that I am driven to live two lifetimes over. I want to connect with a beautiful woman, let her hold my heart, and have the vulnerability to let our partnership unfold naturally. I want to cry so hard that my tears cleanse my soul. I want to create another human being, and feel all the feelings again along with them. I want others to expand because of their time with me, and I want to share my empathy until it opens their heart. I want to receive a million thank you’s for my services, and be filled with endless gratitude. I want to fall asleep knowing that the garden of life is more beautiful because of what I have done. I want to sing my death song with thousands of people crying me goodbye. I want to become one with Love, and return back to the waters of God.
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